The elderly need love, not rights

Shoddy, pitiful care for the elderly and failing care homes are back in the papers today, being flagged up by a team of Telegraph journos (Emily Gosden, Tim Ross, Martin Beckford and Richard Alleyne). It’s understandable that the challenges that this neglect and inadequate care raises are put in terms of ‘human rights’. However listening to the coverage this morning I found myself wondering about whether we have the correct narrative.

It seems to me that if we immediately put the case in terms of ‘rights’ then we lose the essence of what is going wrong. And the best way I can think of to describe this essence is love. Because an absence or opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. And indifference is at the heart of the problem we now face. Too many of us think that caring for the elderly is someone else’s job. Whether it’s been a sub-conscious abdication of personal responsibility to the Social Services, a weak-willed acceptance of State-dependency or deliberate elder neglect the causes, or even the causes of the causes, need urgent exposure.

And the debate cannot be immature or socialist, because we simply cannot afford a return to the State ‘production, distribution and exchange’ Clause IV centrist mentality that Blair so rightly rejected but some health leaders seem to think is the answer. We need the articulation of a moral responsibility, based on strong families and communities, on Benjamin Franklin’s thirteen virtues, on absolute principles and a society in which not only neglect by fathers is a shame, but neglect by friends and neighbours is as well.

You cannot legislate for love. But government can support the institutions and role models that promote and inculcate and inspire. During my time as a home-visiting optician I saw the best and worst of home ‘care’. There are neighbours and friends out there who are earthly angels, giving selflessly to the elderly next door and who do so not out of obligation, but out of what I can only describe as love. They’d probably be embarrassed by that description, but that is what it is.  It certainly isn’t a response to their neighbour’s human rights. We cannot now be in ignorance of the fear in which too many elderly people live. As ever, there needs to be a personal, community and political response to this scandal, but let’s start by talking about that incredible uniquely powerful human quality of love, and we might actually improve things.  

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About Julia Manning

Julia Manning is a social entrepreneur, writer, campaigner and commentator. She is based in London and is the founder and Chief Executive of 2020health, an independent, social enterprise Think Tank whose aim is to Make Health Personal. Through networking, technology, research, relationships and campaigning 2020health has influenced opinion and action in fields as diverse as bioethics, alcohol, emerging technologies, fraud, education, consumer technology and vaccination. Julia studied visual science at City University and became a member of the College of Optometrists in 1991. Her career has included being a visiting lecturer at City University, a visiting clinician at the Royal Free Hospital, working with south London Primary Care Trusts and as a Director of the UK Institute of Optometry. She specialised in diabetes (University of Warwick Certificate in Diabetic Care) and founded Julia Manning Eyecare in 2004, a home and prison visiting practice for people with mental and physical disabilities using the latest digital technology, which she sold to Healthcall (now part of Specsavers) in 2009. Experiences of working in the NHS, contributing to policy development, raising two children in the inner-city and standing in the General Election in Bristol in 2005 led to Julia forming 2020health at the end of 2006. Julia is a regular guest on TV and radio shows such as BBC News, ITV’s Daybreak/ GMB, Channel 5 News, BBC 1′s The Big Questions, BBC Radio, LBC and has taken part in debates and contributed to BBC’s Newsnight, Panorama, You and Yours and ITV’s The Week. She is mum to a rugby-mad son, a daughter passionate about Shakespeare, and wife of a comprehensive school assistant head-teacher. She loves gardening, ballet, Zimbabwe, her Westies Skye and Angus, is an honorary research associate at UCL and a Fellow of the RSA.
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